Dear Brite Girl…Help! I just recently met my boyfriend’s parents and his mother is off her rocker! We’ve already been looking at rings and he is definitely the icing on my cake. We have so many wonderful things in common from our career to our goofy picks in movies, but ughhh – the future “monster-in-law” is going to be dreadful. She is the Debbie Downer. And I already can tell that I am not good enough for her son – case-book scenario nightmare 101. How do I get this woman on my side and bite my tongue to not talk badly about her to my boyfriend? Sincerely, Marrying the tribe not just the Indian
Dear Marrying,
So Mrs. Bates thinks you aren’t good enough for her son? Please
complete the following:
Are you:
1. A high school dropout?
2. Unemployed by choice?
3. A dealer of illegal substances?
4. On probation?
5. Cruel to children and/or small animals?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, his mom is
probably right. However, if you answered no to all, then you’ve got
some work ahead of you.
First of all, under NO circumstances should you ever speak negativelyabout her to your boyfriend. He emerged into this world through herbirth canal. She will always win. You also need to ask yourself if it is a red flag that 50% of his genes are identical to hers.
Perhaps she is jealous that she is no longer the number one woman in her son’s life, and perhaps she’s just straight up looney tunes. Time will tell. Until then, kill her with kindness. Have a forgiving spirit. And DON’T overcompensate. She’ll smell it like blood in the water. Not attractive.
Remember that you have something wonderful in common: you both love your boyfriend and want what’s best for him. If anyone’s going to help to get her on your side, it’s him. Ask him about her and what you might have in common. He should also be putting in good words f
or you to her when you aren’t around.
On the BRITE-side, your boyfriend fell in love with you because you are fabulous. With patience and some work Ms. Monster-in-Law will come around. Until then, stay Sassy, Classy, and Brite!
Written by: Ensley Gilchrist, Haughty by Nature
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