
Brite Emotionally-connected Tip: Changes
How do we transform ourself into someone we REALLY want to be? A real shift of this kind demands brutal honesty with one’s self, coupled with a willingness to let go of unhealthy beliefs, values and attachments.
Changes aren’t easy. Think about past changes and what motivation finally made them stick. For the most part, it wasn’t another person. YOU chose to make and keep those changes; otherwise you slid backwards into old patterns. To really change one’s self demands two things: CHOICE and COMMITMENT, no exceptions. Be honest with yourself, make a choice, stick to it and you will see the fruits of your labor.
I have been trying to change my husband for years and unfortunately have been unsuccessful. I knew even when we first met that he was a very independent, strong minded man but I always thought that I could change him just a little. I realized lately that it just isn’t going to happen and maybe deep down I am envious of his personality trait! I have really, really put forth alot of effort lately to work towards my goal of becoming independent and I am feeling better about myself. I am able to explore new places and new friendships instead of depending and nagging (ha ha) on my husband for complete attention all the time.